When life knocks you down, calmly get back up, smile, and say. "You hit like a bitch."



We have the best Family and Friends. Throughout this whole transplant journey, with the ups and downs, the devastating news, the good news, the support we received was amazing. When I told people our first transplant was cancelled, people really rallied around, we were phoned and comforted and everyone cried with us, it wasn’t just contained between the 4 of us, we all got support from our various family and friends, it was such a devastating blow. When we got the good news, everyone was overjoyed with us.

In hospital on the 21st of May this year, waiting for our surgery, we were phoned, sms’ed, e-mailed, whatsapped and there might have been some smoke signals from New Zealand too! Hahahahahahahahaha!!! Stian’s family sent sms’es to Elize and Stian, their friends phoned and texted, our Family from all over the globe sent texts and e-mails, Pete’s sister Cathy has been such an amazing support for us, her and her husband Chris has been there for us through thick and thin. When I started dialysis she would phone Pete all the way from NZ almost daily, she was so worried about us both, but she very importantly let Pete talk, he was going through such a tough time and his Sister was very much there for him, he really needed it. Then Pete’s cousin Jean in England Whatsapped us quite a bit, she would send messages and prayers, it was so good of her. Pete’s other cousin Bridget in Natal was also such a sweet support for us. My Mom couldn’t be with us at the hospital so she phoned alot, sent messages and was just there in spirit. She was the taxi driver for the day, had to take the boys to hockey and to music lessons. She was a great help that day. Pete’s parents are quite old and dealing with some serious health issues at present so we didn’t ask them for help, they were dealing with enough as it was. But they phoned often and always asked how we were doing and how we were holding up. They were so excited to hear we were going to finally have our transplant.

Then there are my friends, my best friend Tanya is such a sweety, she’s always BBM’ing to see how I’m doing, can get rather heated if she feels I don’t listen! Hahahahahaha! But she was so supportive the whole time. Her husband Steve actually showed up at the hospital when Elize and I were in theatre, Pete and Stian really needed it, they were freaked out of their minds because we were gone so long, so him showing up at the hospital was a real Godsend.

I have some very special friends in Cape Town, Brenda and Luke, they BBM’ed me lots on the day of the transplant, and kept me busy when I was seriously bored in ICU. They were both so supportive while I was in hospital, when I had a scare they would be there on my phone talking me through whatever I was feeling. They haven’t met each other, so when Pete and I go to the Cape again we are all going to have lunch or coffee together. My oldest friend in Cape Town also sent me messages of encouragement, it was so sweet to hear from all my friends. I would have loved to see my CT friends in hospital, but it’s a bit far you know!

Then we had great support from Pete’s best friends, Leon who lives in New York and Matthew and his wife Isobel who lives in Canada, they e-mailed and Facebooked and generally encouraged us through all of this. It’s hard when good friends are far away, sometimes you just want to hook up and have a visit, but we will have to make a plan with that and go see them some time.

Then I have a friend in Australia, Donald, he’s such a sweety, he’s always on FB liking this or commenting on that. And Mike, always been supportive of Pete and I he’s also been with us through thick and thin, such a sweet person really.

And Effie, our sweet Greek teacher and Essie our friend in Mauritius, they have been so sweet through  this whole journey.

And then there is my little Sis, Simone, she is a true warrior that one, feisty and always there, she wears her heart on her sleeve, and even though she has gone through some major crap in her life, she will put it all aside and be there for us. She is such a part of our daily lives.

And my Sister Elize and her husband Stian, they are our rocks, we know we can always rely on them no matter what. WE as a family will be eternally grateful for what they have done for us, it has been such a privilege to have them be such a huge part of our lives. Greater support we could not ask for. On a later date I will post what my Sister has gone through for this transplant.

I would like to thank each and everyone who is a part of our lives, and our journey from the bottom of my heart, without these people in our lives, it would have been pretty lonely.

“Life without thankfulness is devoid of love and passion. Hope without thankfulness is lacking in fine perception. Faith without thankfulness lacks strength and fortitude. Every virtue divorced from thankfulness is maimed and limps along the spiritual road.”- John Henry Jowett


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My favourite quote.

My favourite quote is “When life knocks you down, calmly get back up, smile and say ‘You hit like a bitch.” And I truly believe that. But, sometimes the knock is just that much too hard, and that much too difficult to walk past. So what do you do then? There isn’t a quote for that eventuality. And even though so many of us have knocks in life, there are people who get knocked time and time again. I have two such friends, and I dearly wish that there was something I could do to alleviate their burden, but there isn’t. So all I can do is stand on the sidelines and watch. And hope they will remain standing.

I have seen on so many occasions that life is very unfair. And sometimes seem outright cruel to some people. There are also a great many people who have so much going for them, yet they are so unhappy and want more to fill that void of emptiness in their lives. If only we can somehow distribute the good more equally. That would help somewhat.

I suppose all we can hope for is that at some point the tables will turn and the suffering will become less, and the blessings will increase.

Until such a time comes, I will do my level best to be available for my dear friends.

“Suffering has been stronger than all other teaching, and has taught me to understand what your heart used to be. I have been bent and broken, but – I hope – into a better shape.” 
― Charles Dickens


Today is Woman’s Day.

This is the day we honour the women in our lives. I have a lot to be thankful for today, I have a posse of women who walk with me everyday. And I have been priviledged to gain some new friends along the way.

To my Sister Elize, I thank you for your love and dedication, you are always available when I need you. You step into the gap with ease and confidence. You are a second Mom to my boys. You are my light after a very dark tunnel. You are beside me all the way. You sit in hospital with me for hours on end, cheering me and showing me your support. You will never know exactly how much that means to me. I am astounded at your grace and love for me. Your courage has led the way for me to be brave in the face of adversity.  I am honoured and so very very priviledged to be your Sister and I am so thankful for the relationship we have. You are my very first best friend. I love you madly!

To my sweet sweet best friend Tanya. You are always there, you listen to my rants and rant along with me. You have a listening ear, you always pray for me. We have such fun you and I, dancing in the rain with you is a memory I will never forget. Your fiesty and fiery personality is just awesome! You always make me laugh!You walked this long and hard road with me without complaint. You are just always there for me, thankyou for being such a sweet friend. Thankyou for walking this road with me, I am never alone. I cant imagine my life without you. I love you always.

To Simone, I have known you since you were 9. My little Sister! Your enthusiasm and sense of fun is contageous. And just what I need! Thankyou for always dropping by, sending me messages, it comes just at the right time. You know just when I need a “pick me up”!  Great minds think alike! Like HUD!!! And one day, the most awesome “Pavement” will come along, and will be soooo much better than the old one! One that will suit you and your shoes best! Love you stax Babe!

To Tersh, my sweet friend, even though you have gone through so much in your life, you are always there to listen and to pray. You have helped in ways I could never repay, and I appreciate you so much. You have taught me some valuable lessons without even knowing it. I am honoured to know a beautiful family like yours. I love you.

Then my 2 new twitter friends Brenda and Janine, you guys have been so sweet, sending me awseome messages, some days at my lowest point without even knowing it. Words I needed to read just at the right time. I havent known you girls for long, but it feels like and old friendship already. I love you girls so much!

Then there is my Sister-in-law in New Zealand, she was a rock during my early days on dialysis, she phoned Pete every day to encourage him and send love to me. Being so far away was very difficult for her, but her help went a long way to secure my survival, I could never repay her, but I love her for the person she is to my family. Aunty Cathy rocks!

Then my friend Isobel in Canada. She’s been amazing, skype calls and whatsapp messages, parcels from Cananda with all sorts of prezzies. Her emails of encouragement meant so much to me. Its hard when friends live far away, you cant just pop in and have a cup of tea and a chat like it used to be, you have talk into a screen and miss them.

I will stop there, these women mean the world to me, and I am SO blessed to have them in my life. I look forward to tackling life with them right there by my side.

“There are women who make things better… simply by showing up. There are women who make things happen. There are women who make their way. There are women who make a difference. And women who make us smile. There are women of wit and wisdom who- through strength and courage- make it through. There are women who change the world everyday… Women like you.” 
― Ashley Rice